Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Falsely Accused, Virginia Teacher Sean Lanigan Attempts to Reclaim His Life - ABC News

In New Zealand you will struggle to find a real bloke male teacher because the feminist and homosexual movement have polluted the environment with their insipid ideologies. The power of false testimony sucks. As a falsely accused father I can feel the extreme pain this guy endured. I guess the New Zealand  system likes injustice so lies are the winner, good old kiwi style eh bent judge!

Falsely Accused, Virginia Teacher Sean Lanigan Attempts to Reclaim His Life - ABC News

Sunday, January 29, 2012

d4j at work doing demo in ChCh

dad4justice doing demo. Watch big Gerry give the window a shove after I cut it out. Demo is hardcore and thank you Lord for hard hats. Thousands of houses to go and thank God I am strong.



Red-zone demolition notifications 'not practical' - National - Video - 3 News

Have your say about kiwi kids

I would urge compassionate folk to use this opportunity to explain to a callous government that our vulnerable children are being abused in an ever increasingly violent society. Big tough Maori bros bash little babies on the head with hammers and NO ONE is charged for the slaughter! What a disgrace. What a sad indictment from a Nation that once cared about children.Nowadays your front page will headline infanticide every second day, for example; " a 21-year-old Hamilton man is due to appear in court this morning charged with murdering infant Serenity Jay Scott" etc...etc....etc....

We dumb arse kiwi care more about whales, seals and snails than children. Forget that crap and start building safer communities so our greatest assets( our children) can excel and grow to their full potential.Stop the senseless killing you savage evil beasts.


http://www.childrensactionplan.govt.nz/have-your-say-1

Saturday, January 28, 2012

The Family Court must be destroyed!

If people only knew how unfair and dangerous the Family Court is towards innocent parents and bewildered children - they would call for the destruction of a sinister gravy train industry. How dare the Family Court claim to act in the children's best interests? This is beyond comprehension. Ask anybody that has been involved in the sick litigation. You that staff this court of shame should be hung for crimes against children! Enjoy your blood money while you can scum of the earth judge.
RIP MUM

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Wednesday, January 25, 2012

‘Captain Coward’: Behold our brave new sexually emancipated world | LifeSiteNews.com

In one video, Voris mentioned the type of men who are approved by the feminist-controlled media: weak, stupid and ineffectual, who need to be ruled over by strong, hip, intelligent women

Just look at the pathetic media wimps at TVNZ and the hen pecked pc male politicians as good examples of a eunuch species of jellyfish men.

Where are all the real blokes? Oh that's right they have left this sad country to make a better living overseas.

Anyway a good story about a cowardly Itie

‘Captain Coward’: Behold our brave new sexually emancipated world LifeSiteNews.com

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Well done to sailor Laura Dekker

Miss Dekker’s achievement has divided the Netherlands, where her father has been branded “irresponsible” and a publicity seeker.

I think this father should be congratulated for helping to produce such an amazing child.The stupid Dutch tulip men hating munchers that moan should shut up, because they should celebrate such a tremendous achievement. The world should encourage  courageous behaviour from our youth not condemn it. And please stop trying to demonize fatherhood.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/sport/othersports/sailing/9030567/Dutch-teen-sailor-Laura-Dekker-completes-solo-world-tour.html

Friday, January 20, 2012

Laugh time.

A man was walking down the street when he was accosted by a particularly dirty and shabby-looking homeless man who asked him for a couple of dollars for dinner.

The man took out his wallet, extracted ten dollars and asked, "If I give you this money, will you buy some beer with it instead of dinner?"

"No, I had to stop drinking years ago," the homeless man replied.

"Will you use it to go fishing instead of buying food?" the man asked.

"No, I don't waste time fishing," the homeless man said. "I need to spend all my time trying to stay alive."

"Will you spend this on green fees at a golf course instead of food?" the man asked.

"Are you NUTS!" replied the homeless man. "I haven't played golf in 20 years!"

"Will you spend the money on a woman in the red light district instead of food?" the man asked.

"What disease would I get for ten lousy bucks?" exclaimed the homeless man.

"Well," said the man, "I'm not going to give you the money. Instead, I'm going to take you home for a terrific dinner cooked by my wife."

The homeless man was astounded. "Won't your wife be furious with you for doing that? I know I'm dirty and I probably smell pretty disgusting."

The man replied, "That's okay. It's important for her to see what a man looks like after he has given up beer, fishing, golf and sex."

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Vote Now on Trial By Jury Poll

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Monday 16 January 2012


Should we limit the right to Trial by Jury ?


The Magistrates' Association supports taking away a defendant's right to
trial by jury
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some cases, such as shoplifting or minor criminal damage. Is it a good idea?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/law/poll/2012/jan/16/trial-by-jury-judiciary
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Tuesday, January 17, 2012

2012 International Men's Day

2012 INTERNATIONAL MEN’S DAY: HELPING MEN AND BOYS LIVE LONGER, HAPPIER, HEALTHIER LIVES
In the run up to International Men’s Day 2012 (Monday 19th November) we’re asking supporters of the day to focus on five key challenges that will help us improve the health and wellbeing of men and boys all over the world.
Some of the universal health issues that men and boys in all countries around the globe face include lower life expectancy, difficulty accessing mental health services, educational disadvantages, lack of male role models and tolerance of violence against men and boys.
To help us focus our collective minds upon helping men and boys live longer, happier, healthier lives, the five key challenges that the International Men’s Day team is inviting men and women all over the world to address are:
1. IMPROVING MEN’S LIFE EXPECTANCY:
From the moment a boy is born he can expect to live a shorter life than his female counterparts in all but four countries on the planet. There is also a huge gap in life expectancy between rich and poor countries with men in Mozambique reaching an average age of 38 while in Iceland, Israel and Switzerland men live twice as long until the age of 80. There are also huge gaps in life expectancy within countries, with men born in the poorest parts of the United Kingdom, for example, dying 10 years sooner than their fellow countrymen in the wealthiest parts of the capital city. Boys are not genetically programmed to die young so our first challenge this International Men’s Day is to ask countries taking part to consider how we can help all men and boys live longer, happier, healthier lives – no matter how poor they are and no matter what country they are born in.
2. HELPING MEN GET HELP:
Every year poor mental health drives over three quarters of a million people to commit suicide – and around two thirds of them are males. Men and boys all over the world can find it more difficult to access help for mental and emotional health problems and most prison populations include a significant number of men with mental health issues. This International Men’s Day we are asking participating countries to consider how we can help more men and boys get the help and support they need and to take action on behalf of the hundreds of thousands of men who will take their own lives this year.
3. IMPROVING BOYS’ EDUCATION:
Poor education is linked to poor health outcomes later in life so improving boys’ education will also help men and boys live longer, happier healthier lives. This International Men’s Day we are asking people to explore why boys in richer countries are underperforming girls and also less likely to be in education, and why tens of millions of boys in poorer countries are still not completing a primary education? How can we address truancy and poor literacy rates which leave boys prone to adult unemployment, substance abuse, obesity, depression and poverty? What action can we take to focus on boys’ education in a way that closes the gap between girls and boys, addresses the gaps between rich boys and poor boys, and helps us to improve the long-term health and wellbeing of all men and boys.
4. TACKLING TOLERANCE OF VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN AND BOYS:
Violence has a major impact on men’s health all over the world. Every year over half a million people die from violence and 83% of them are men and boys. The same proportion of the global burden of disease (ill-health, disability or early death) from violence is borne by boys and men. Yet while there are now a number of deserved global campaigns to tackle violence against women and girls, there are no such campaigns to help men and boys. Why are we so tolerant of violence and abuse against boys and men and why do we still tolerate a world where we send boys and young men to fight wars on behalf of the adults in power? This International Men’s Day we are asking for actions we can take to help men and boys live in a less violent world and challenge our collective global tolerance of violence against men and boys.
5: PROMOTING FATHERS AND MALE ROLE MODELS
Fathers and male role models play a vital role in helping boys make a healthy, happy and positive transition from boyhood to manhood. How can we give boys a right to family life that gives them an equal opportunity to know and experience both their father and mother and ensure that their role as a future father is equal to girls’ role as future mothers? Giving boys a range of positive life choices in terms of family, work and leisure can help us reduce the number of boys whose choices are limited and end up poor, illiterate, unemployed, homeless, imprisoned and isolated. This International Men’s Day we are asking what actions we can take to give all boys access to a variety of male role models and ensure their country’s laws and practices give them an equal right to fatherhood, with all the support they need to be the best fathers they can be.
Addressing each of these challenges will help us to help men and boys all over the world to live longer, happier, healthier lives, which is why we are inviting supporters of International Men’s Day to join us in taking on one of more of these five key challenges in 2012.
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Sunday, January 15, 2012

Tactless judge horrifies parents

Unbelievable this filthy judge should be stood down immediately. Our justice system is run by depraved scum of the earth. Nobody can respect these creeps that sit behind our court benches. Judges are overpaid lazy nitwits who are accountable to nothing and nobody. This stinks big time!If the silly mad cow judge said that about my daughters attacker then I would slap the mad maggot in the face.



http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10778835
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The parents of a 5-year-old European girl who was raped at a Turangi campground are horrified by a judge's comments that her alleged attacker looked very smart.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Men increasingly putting family before jobs.


Men increasingly putting family before jobs
Brett Baker spends time with his daughter, Katie, after school Friday at their home. MATT BARNARD / Tulsa World
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Published: 1/9/2012 2:25 AM
Last Modified: 1/9/2012 7:39 AM
The question occurred to him after several weeks of unemployment: "Why," Eric Price asked himself, "do I even want a job?"
Price had to abandon his cubicle in 2008 when the national economy tanked and his company slashed half its work force.
The recession, for reasons that economists are still debating, affected a disproportionate number of men.
Seven males lost their jobs for every three women who were laid off, which inspired somebody to coin the term "mancession."
"I needed to make a living," said Price, who's raising two children. "But there's more than one way to do that. I didn't want my whole life to revolve around the office."
Forget the traditional, 9-to-5 desk job.
Price began taking freelance IT work, keeping himself busy at least 20 hours a week, but never a full 40.
"It's strange," he said, "that we work all the time when we're young and our children are young, all for the hope that someday we can retire, when maybe we're not as healthy as we used to be and our children are all grown up and gone.
"I want some of that free time now."
Like Price, an increasing number of men are taking part-time or temporary work, a job market long dominated by women, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics.
Women used to be three times more likely than men to have part-time or temporary jobs.
Now women are only twice as likely to have those jobs, and men are catching up fast.
Most reports blame the recession for pushing men to take whatever work they can find. Part-time or temporary is better than nothing.
But here's another theory.
"It's a lifestyle choice," said Carey Baker, president and CEO of Tulsa placement agency Part-Time Pros.
"Men are looking for flexible hours, even if it might mean accepting less money, because they want to spend time with their kids."
In other words, the change seems more generational than economic.
In 1975, a majority of mothers still stayed home with their young children, according to the Labor Bureau.
By 2007, nearly three out of four mothers worked outside the home.
As they entered the job market, women struggled to balance careers with family life. Men faced changes, too.
The average American married man with children now performs 30 percent of all household chores, double what the average husband did in the 1960s.
And men are taking more responsibility for child care.
In 1977, the average father spent just two hours a day with his children.
Now he spends twice that much time with the kids, putting in roughly the same hours as the average mother.
"Men don't see themselves as just the bread-winners anymore, because they're sharing that responsibility with their wives," Baker said.
"Now men want to be a bigger part of their kids' lives, and I think that is driving them into part-time work more than the economy."
The statistics seem to agree, showing that the trend started long before the current recession, according to Labor Bureau archives.
Until the mid-1970s, roughly 8 to 9 percent of men held part-time or temporary jobs, a statistic that had held steady for generations.
Then the numbers began slowly but steadily increasing, crossing 10 percent in the late '90s and reaching 13.2 percent in 2009.
If that doesn't sound dramatic, consider that it represents 4.5 million men - more than the entire population of Oklahoma - moving from full-time to part-time work, a 90 percent increase over the span of just one generation.
"Life is too short to spend all of it at work," said Brett Baker, who gave up his job as a Tulsa firefighter last year to work with his wife at Part-Time Pros.
"I want to be there when my daughter gets out of school. I want to be at the recital. I want to take her to the park."
Technically, Baker works full time and then some, spending up to 60 hours a week on the job. But he sets his own schedule, and that's what more men are wanting.
"It's getting away from that old sitting-at-the-desk, watching-the-clock model of doing business," he says. "You want a job that fits into your life, not the other way around."

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Men's Experiences with Partner Aggression launching new study


We are sending you this email because you have participated in or expressed interest in the Men’s Experiences with Partner Aggression Project in the past. We wanted to announce to you that the project has launched a new study, supported by the National Institutes of Health, and is seeking participants. We believe that you or someone you know may be eligible for this study. Thus, we would like to take this opportunity to ask you to post, forward, and/or distribute the below recruitment ad for us. Please note that the below ad is the recruitment ad that was approved by our human subjects committee and thus, it must be displayed as is and cannot be altered. Thank you.


"Researchers at Clark University and Bridgewater State University are conducting a study on men who experienced aggression from their girlfriends, wives, or female partners. If you are a man between the ages of 18-59 and have experienced aggression from a female partner at some point during your life, you may be eligible to participate in this study. We invite you to follow this link to the study webpage http://www.clarku.edu/faculty/dhines/mensdvstudy.htm where you can complete an Internet survey about your experiences. The survey takes about 20-30 minutes to complete, is under the direction of Denise A. Hines, Ph.D., Clark University, and is being funded by the National Institutes of Health. Participation is completely voluntary and you can withdraw your participation at any time."


If you believe that you got this email in error, please reply back and we will take you off of our list. We also apologize for any duplication of this announcement, as you may be on more than one of our lists.


We thank you in advance for all your help and support. Your past support has allowed us to present our work in many different arenas across the U.S. and Canada, including invited workshops and panels to state domestic violence coalitions, Canadian Parliament, and the Massachusetts State Legislature. The issue is getting more and more attention, and we are motivated to continue our work. It is with your support that we are able to get the word out about this important issue.


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Monday, January 9, 2012

Divorced parents will have right to see their children under new law

This is great news from the motherland.Pity our gutless and wimpish government couldn't do the same! The huge damage the feminazi stinking thinking family court has inflicted on society has  finally got a government to take action on the modern scourge of society, which unfortunately is fatherlessness. For decades now Western governments have staged a war of terror against fatherhood.Everybody knows a family court affidavit is worthless toilet paper,lies go unchecked in a court fully entrenched in delivering copious amounts of unlawful male gender discrimination.Every mother in New Zealand knows that she can destroy a good loving dad in just one phone call to the police alleging domestic violence or child abuse. No proof needed, as cops and court are more than happy to run with the lies for years and years!! The dad is alienated from his children for years because of lies. The dad watches his mum die of heartbreak. She was crushed and hounded to death by the Christchurch family court. The sick family court is a gravy train for greedy men hating liars. Ask any family court lawyer or psychologist if they know what the word truth means? Come on kiwi stop the rot.

In the UK , divorced parents will have right to see their children under new law The move will delight fathers’ rights campaigners who believe dads are penalised under the present system, which usually grants mothers custody.

Full Story: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2082970/Divorced-parents-risk-jail-stop-ex-partner-seeing-children-new-law.html

Sunday, January 8, 2012

As Israel Amends Custody Law, Fathers Protest Feminist Conference

http://www.israelnewsagency.com/childrenisraelcustodylawequalrightsparentsdivorcefamilycourtsbarilanuniversityruthhalperinkadarichildwelfaresocialworkersdafnahackerjennifermcintosh48010812.html Funny that one of the places in Israel is called the Rackman Center... And of course it says they Rack men! As Israel Amends Custody Law, Fathers Protest Feminist Conference at Bar Ilan University By Joel Leyden Israel News Agency Tel Aviv --- January 8, 2012 ... As the Israel government is now recognizing that divorced fathers and their children deserve equal rights as divorced women, a militant feminist conference at the Rackman Center in Bar Ilan University has caused a fury in Israel. The anti-male conference was designed to sabotage parental equality and indoctrinate social workers to treat all men and fathers in divorce or separation as unfit or dangerous parents. Men's and children's rights organizations vehemently protested it, members of Knesset tried to stop it, litigation in Texas has been launched and pleas to the United Nations (UN) CEDAW rapporteur Rashida Manjoo were sent, seeking the termination of the organizer Ruth Halperin Kaddari's membership in CEDAW. The Rackman Center at Bar Ilan University is headed by militant feminist Dr. Ruth Halperin-Kadari, in close association with another leading speaker, Dr. Dafna Hacker of Tel Aviv University’s Gender Studies program, another militant feminist with strong ties to the New Israel Fund. Hacker is a founder of Itach-Maaki, an organization that recently volunteered to assist in the legal defense of sadistic man-killer Erika Orbush Frishkin. Father's rights groups in Israel state that Halperin-Kaddari and Hacker publicly encourage women to use children to extort financial benefits from former spouses. The morning session at Bar-Ilan was an indoctrination session to train social workers in justifying parental alienation - PAS, and the use of sophisticated language to deny fathers parental rights and access to their children. Australian male bashing guru Jennifer McIntosh participated by video conference and tried to persuade Israel social workers that only mothers connect to children because of "neuron emissions from the right side of their brains". There was no discussion of the documented importance of a father's role in the well being of their children. The second session is the unveiling of two committee reports, one on custody and visitations, and the other on child support. Both committees announced reforms which the ultra feminist organizations are desperately trying to sabotage. The second session was attended by the Minister of Justice, Yaakov Neeman, and the committee chairmen, Dan Schnit and Pinchas Schiffman. Israel pro-family and men’s rights organizations are outraged that such important conferences are held on the militant feminists’ home turf, and will be moderated by the same women who try to prevent any reform in family law from taking place. Moderator Ruth Halperin Kaddari has already expressed her position that the tender years presumption (automatic custody to women) should not be eliminated and instead stretched out to apply to children and youths until the age of 18. In the past, she has been caught falsifying statistical data and disseminating false results of public opinion polls and surveys. Another speaker at the first session, Saviona Rotlevi, was herself in charge of a sub-Commission on parental equality between 1997-2003. After six years of deliberations, she refused to issue a final recommendation, on the ground that she personally thinks that men are not mature enough to handle tasks of caring for children. This appears to have been the 9th annual conference held in this format. All eight previous conferences were secret and the public was not made aware of them. Members of the pro-family and men’s rights organizations stated: “Now we understand why we are being treated with such immense hostility. Apparently, the Israel Ministry of Welfare has been training its social workers at the institution where hatred of men is a form of art." MK Yulia Shamalov-Berkovich (Kadima) has published letters she sent earlier this week to Welfare Minister Moshe Kachlon and Bar Ilan President Moshe Kaveh, asking them to rethink the conference, and cancel it. She states that it is academic hypocrisy to allow only radical male hating feminist speakers at such important conferences with national impact, and close the events to speakers supporting parental equality. The conference is timed to coincide with the release of the conclusions of government committees that are expected to recommend canceling the Tender Years Clause that gives mothers automatic custody over young children in divorce. Israel is said to be the last country in the world where this presumption is still in effect, and causes a generation of fatherless children. Shamalov-Berkovich notes that the conference is biased and that the social workers should also be exposed to the views of experts who support the cancellation of the Tender Years presumption, and the benefits of joint custody. In divorce cases that involve disagreement over parenting arrangements, social worker’s reports and recommendations are crucial to shaping the court’s decision, because family courts simply “so order” them without trial. Bar Ilan U’s militant feminist leadership suffered some setbacks in the past year, in the wake of growing criticism of its ultra-leftist leanings. Jennifer McIntosh, the Australian key speaker who intends to talk about “mental primary caretaker” research in Australia, received warnings from Israeli men's rights activists. In their letters they ask Ms. McIntish to decline participation in the Israeli Rackman Center conference. “The fathers’ rights organizations in Israel protested both inside and outside against Australian meddling with the internal affairs of Israel and the rights of parents in Israel for a happy, peaceful, loving and caring relationship with their children post-divorce on an equal basis”. The fathers complain that McIntosh has “no idea about the ruthless oppression of men in Israel Courts and by social workers, police, psychiatrists and even the rabbinical courts”, and “no idea how prevalent the “contact centers” are in Israel. It is enough that a woman creates a “lack of trust” situation for the SW and judges to send normative men to contact centers”. “You have no idea how many men commit suicide here because of the incitement of hatred by organizations such as the Rackman Center. You also have no idea how hate mongering propaganda emanating from the Rackman Center is being used to suppress the lives of men, and you appear to willingly join the war against men in Israel”. According to the divorced fathers, the conferences were videotaped and will be used as evidence in a litigation which is already filed in Texas based on Alien Tort Claim Act (“ATCA”) on the allegation that that the McIntosh and “the ferocious feminist organizations incite hatred and perpetrate crimes against humanity by separating men from their children”. In conclusion, the Israeli fathers told McIntosh: “we find that what you have spoken of, at said conference, is nothing but junk science and a despicable one as well, dressed up as 'academic research', when in fact, it is purely hate speech and incitement to commit crimes against humanity, incitements to perpetuate conflicts between women and men, incitement for woman to file false domestic violence complaints to create 'high conflict', and the encouragement of parental alienation on a grand scale. You and your cohorts have already given Australia a negative reputation in the international community and especially here in Israel, since your unfounded, undocumented and gender bias ideas have no academic substance whatsoever." An Israel Justice Ministry panel called to revoke an archaic 40-year-old law that automatically grants custody of all children under age six to the mother. The proposal suggested the law be replaced with a gender-equal alternative. A complaint submitted last year to the United Nation’s Committee on Economic, Social and Cultural Rights, the Coalition for Children and Family (CCF), an Israel non-profit organization vying for father’s rights, blasted the legislation as “blatantly discriminatory against men.” “If it was not for crazy feminist hate-inciting monsters we could have achieved this change in legislation in 2003,” said Daniel Zer, a father who has not seen his son for more than two years and who is active in the CCF. “This would already have brought us a whole slew of changes, including in the area of divorces and the rabbinical courts, which is also a problem for many men.” Zer stated that Schnitt’s recommendations were not relevant because it was the state’s obligation to remove this specific law because “Israel’s basic laws require equality.” He said that it was time for Israel to adopt similar measures followed in most Western countries regarding custody placement. “There either needs to be gender mutuality, where the law is simply silent about the gender of the parent and bases the decision on the best interest of the children,” said Zer. “Or there needs to be joint custody with a two-home presumption.” The above news content was edited and SEO optimized in Israel by the Leyden Digital PR SEO New Media Group - Israel, New York, Hartford. 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Saturday, January 7, 2012

Family Court 'Experts' Are Cause For Concern

http://www.ctlawtribune.com/getarticle.aspx?ID=40967 Family Court ‘Experts’ Are Cause For Concern The course I recall best from law school was Carol Weisbrod’s family law class at the University of Connecticut. At the time, I did not appreciate it. In fact, I thought it was downright bizarre, even offensive. You see, she used science fiction as part of the pedagogical material. At the time, I wondered what that had to do with the precise metes and bounds of the law, and with the tidy world of justice. Now I think she was onto something. Reason is overrated. The rawest of passions are on display in the family courts. I suspect that is because any divorce is one part murder, one part suicide and one part utter chaos. We are not rational animals. Science fiction helps reconceptualize the hidden ties that bind us one to another; hence the genius of Weisbrod’s use of science fiction. On the few times I appear in family court, it is usually in a post-judgment context, where things have gone horrible awry. I don’t get the hard and fast edges of a financial dispute; my cases involve the blood and gore of broken hearts, and battles over children. Nothing in my legal education prepared me for family court. Little in life did so. Family court is an emotional wasteland with hollowed out souls crying out in the hallways. It is a holocaust. Last fall, I completed half of a course the court’s now require of guardians ad litem for minor children. It is not that I want to appear in such a role in court. I do not. But I was talking to Judge Linda Munro, the chief family court judge in Connecticut, one day and she asked me how I was doing. “The economy is a challenge, but I’ll figure it out,” I told her. “What just might drive me from the law is not knowing how to meet my client’s emotional needs.” I sat through three of the six sessions of the course. (I need to make up the other three this spring.) What I learned there was an eye-opener. But what I see makes me uncomfortable. There is a vast infrastructure of experts, therapists, counselors, social workers, court staff and lawyers in the state, all of whom know one another, and all of whom march beneath the banner of “best interests of the child.” When conflict arises in a divorce about what is best for the kids, there are programs, protocols and resources to throw at the warring parties. I am just not sure I can sign on to the mission, however. Do these folks have any better idea of how to heal the wounds created by a bitter divorce than does a well-meaning neighbor armed with good old-fashioned common sense? What I see in the cases in which I get involved is a regime that simply promotes and extends the conflict by other, and expensive, means. Sure, my sample of cases is very low and not statistically significant. Yes, I get involved only in high-conflict cases. But I am still uncomfortable turning decision-making in the courts over to theoreticians about how best to help children through their parents’ woes. I sat through a deposition the other day of an expert in parental alienation syndrome. I marveled as I listened to him opine about fault, influence and consequences. I found myself wondering, as I do in every divorce case I get involved in, whether the parties and the community might not be better off letting juries decide the issues without the benefit of experts. All this deference to the sensibilities of the children might just be creating a generation of entitled monsters. If Johnny gets to decide he doesn’t want to see his father and the experts say that is all right, what kind of expert is that? Juries bring community values and common sense to a courtroom. Why don’t we trust them with decisions in divorce and custody? I worry that the community of experts, judges and lawyers become inbred when they deal with one another month by month in these heartbreaking cases. Therapists really don’t know best. Plato argued in “The Republic” that the rearing of children was too important a task to be left to private parties. It was a job for the state. Perhaps he was right. Perhaps Weisbrod was right, too. We need to think outside the box about family court. Maybe we need to read science fiction because the sad reality is there are too many broken lives in the family courts.• Norm Pattis is a criminal defense lawyer and civil rights attorney in Bethany. Most days he blogs at www.pattisblog.com.

Friday, January 6, 2012

Top judge says mothers should have children taken away if they don't let fathers see them

Mr Justice Coleridge: Called for 'three strikes and you're out' rule Mothers who refuse to let separated fathers see their children should have them taken away, a senior family court judge said yesterday. The children should be handed over to the full time care of the father if the mother persistently defies court orders, Mr Justice Coleridge said. He called for a ‘three strikes and you’re out rule’ by which children would be taken away if mothers ignored three court orders. The judge said that family courts are losing their authority because so many people take no notice of their judgments. Around 5,000 new cases a year come before the family courts in which parents – almost always mothers – defy orders to let the other parent have contact. Judges are extremely reluctant to jail such mothers because of the damaging effects on the children, so many continue to get away with it. Mr Justice Coleridge, 61, said: ‘If I were to call it three strikes and you’re out it sounds insensitive but something like it perhaps should be the norm.’ He added that occasionally it might be necessary to send a mother to jail. Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1333549/Top-judge-says-mothers-children-taken-away-dont-let-fathers-them.html#ixzz1ihpjtUOP

Monday, January 2, 2012

Record Number of Prescriptions Dished Out.


Pills are not the answer. Come on people, there are far better ways to overcome such an event. Engaging healthy support networks with caring folk would be a better option rather than popping a pill so you can zombie state. Thank God every returning soldier doesn’t hit the pill bottle. I can understand why kiwi doctors like dishing out copious amounts of psychotropic medications; because most of them are addicted to the drugs they peddle to unsuspecting trauma victims. Get real Christchurch and harden up. Real people don’t do pills – ask any Redzone Demo Worker.
Happy meds don't fix the problem, they just add to the problem.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/health/6205430/Record-number-of-prescriptions-dished-out

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Free falling in Quakeville is surreal.


Once upon a time in Canterbury you could wake up to the sound of birds chirping their heads off, nowadays you are rudely awoken by violent earthquakes.
My grandson cannot understand why and my teenage daughter's are fearful.
Demolition is my game and every shake I can imagine more destruction. Every shake makes my job a little more dangerous.
As a hardcore redzone demo veteran I learn to duck bricks and four-by-twos.Ask my comrades.
Brick walls and concrete lintels don’t handle quakes to well, but they never get the chance to hurt this kid.
I am thankful that a rock and roll hasn’t brought a dodgy building down on my head.My blue hard hat is my best mate.
I have been lucky that I have a handy angel who protects my interests here on earth.
My fall arrest system has a real strong anchor point, so going airborne in a man cage working on a unstable roof dangling from a large crane is water off a duck's back for this soldier.
Them boys learn fear is not an option.
Someone got to do the job mate and I am wearing my safety harness for fall prevention at height so stop your whinging and moaning Mr Bureaucratic fool.
Hey Mr Site Safe, fat chance of that doing anything when the big quake hits eh? Don’t answer mate.
Free falling in Quakeville is surreal.