Saturday, July 28, 2012

Fatherhood by Rodney Hide

That's the effect of a "without notice" protection order. The Family Court will grant one immediately following a complaint.I have witnessed fathers fall apart when denied access to their children because false allegations that were never tested in court were made against them. I have seem them dedicate years and years and everything they had just to see their children

Tragically for totally innocent fathers the complaint can be a total pack of lies. The family court does not investigate whether the malicious allegations are true or false. The family court refuses to accept testimony and evidence that can prove the allegations are nothing more than lies invented by a vengeful and vindictive maternal family. Protection orders are issued by the corrupt court at the drop of a hat. Many fathers are overwhelmed by them and commit suicide when they immediately lose  contact with their kids and sadly become alienated from their children.Dad feels he has nothing to live for. I know many dads who have taken this option.

As a victim of false allegations made to the family court in 2001 that resulted in without notice protection orders I can assure that they’re a life sentence. I lost contact with my children for several years as my tainted family court case meandered slowly through the callous and brutally cruel corridors of the gender bias family court. The false testimony cost the country lots of tax dollars! My heartbreaking ordeal resulted in fatal consequences for my family (RIP Mum).  Everybody now knows that I was shafted by a malicious and totally corrupt family court. All of my four New Zealand born love me heaps. I want justice and I will get it one day.

Anyway a great article from Rodney Hide.

Last week my Dad had a massive heart attack. His heart stopped but thanks to the sterling work of St John Ambulance and Auckland Hospital he's alive and doing well. My Dad is 85.

It made me think, sitting with my Mum outside intensive care with my Dad fighting for his life. Memories from long ago filled my mind and reminded me again of my good fortune in having such a good dad.

My Dad's a great man. He's not great like he was once prime minister or something. He wasn't a great sportsman, a celebrity or an activist. He is a great man in the way all the good men of his generation are.

He worked hard all his life. He looked after his family. He enjoys every day. I have never known him to say a bad thing about another person. I doubt he has ever had a bad thought. The only thing he can't abide is laziness. His measure of anyone is how hard they work.

He doesn't study. Or read books. And he never lectures people. I don't recall him ever telling me off.

But, again, like all the good men of his generation, he sets a standard, not by talking about it but by living it. He is a role model for me; one that I have always aspired to live up to but haven't always succeeded. The values that guide him are basic and good, handed down from his parents and their parents before them.

They are simple values but these days they appear impossibly hard to live up to.

My good fortune in life is to have had that standard set and to have been inspired always to try to live up to it.

We now have entire neighbourhoods that have no dads. That's never happened before, even in wartime. The welfare system has made dads economically redundant. In the raising of children they have become an optional extra.

The DPB cheque each week provides the financial support for the raising of children but it can't substitute for a father to look up to and to learn from. Young boys learn from their dads how to be good husbands and fathers. Young girls learn what to look for in a husband and father for their children.

There are 225,000 adults not living with one or other of their children. Most are men.

We know there are deadbeat dads. But there are plenty of good dads, too, made redundant from family life by the DPB.

It's not just the welfare system that has knocked fathers out of their children's lives. The law and its operation also is upended against dads.

The saddest cases I ever had to deal with as an MP were those in which the law was used as a weapon in a fight over custody and money. In our haste to protect women and children we have upended the law and chucked it hard against dads.

I have had many a constituency case in which a dad had come home from work to be greeted by the police, told he's got 10 minutes to pack his things and get out. He was not to say goodbye to his children. He was not to go near them.

That's the effect of a "without notice" protection order. The Family Court will grant one immediately following a complaint. There doesn't have to be abuse. Just the risk of it. Understandably, the court errs on the side of caution and readily grants these orders.

The first a dad knows there's a protection order against him is when he's told to get out. I have known a dad spend that night sleeping in his car and discovering the joint account cleaned out.

I have had dads lose their jobs because of false complaints of sex abuse. One dad was told if he went to anger management classes he might have a chance of seeing his children again.

He turned up each week. That class is the only time he has ever lost his temper. The rapist beside him explained that he was truly sorry for being a bad man and now felt pity for his victims. The murderer said he had found God. Our dad explained that he had done nothing wrong and shouldn't even be there. He was the only one to fail the course. The course facilitator concluded he was "in denial".

I have witnessed fathers fall apart when denied access to their children because false allegations that were never tested in court were made against them. I have seem them dedicate years and years and everything they had just to see their children.

Mothers are important. But so too are dads. All my life I have strived to make my Dad proud of me. That's the way it should be. But what of those sons whose dads aren't there? What becomes of them? Sadly, I think we know the likely answer.

Landscape - Einstein a Go-Go 1981

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Child's Behaviour Linked To Father -Infant Interactions

Child's Behavior Linked to Father-Infant  Interactions, Study Shows
Science        Daily, July 18, 2012

ScienceDaily (July 18, 2012) — Children whose fathers are more positively engaged with them at the age of three months have fewer behavioural problems at the age of twelve months, according to new research funded by the Wellcome Trust.The study suggests that interventions aimed at improving parent-child interaction in the early postnatal period may be beneficial to the child's behaviour later in life.

Behavioural disorders are the most common psychological problem affecting children. They are associated with a wide range of problems in adolescence and adult life, including academic failure, delinquency, peer rejection, and poor psychiatric and physical health. Research suggests that the roots of enduring behavioural problems often extend back into the preschool years.

Epidemiological studies have identified several risk factors for the onset and continuity of behavioural problems. Among these, parenting characteristics and patterns of parent-child interaction seem to be particularly important. However, studies of parental factors usually focus on the role of the mother.

In a study published July 19 in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, researchers at the University of Oxford studied 192 families recruited from two maternity units in the UK to see whether there was a link between father-child interactions in the early postnatal period and the child's behaviour.

Dr Paul Ramchandani -- a researcher and clinical psychiatrist now based at the Academic Unit of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Department of Medicine, Imperial College London -- led the study, which assessed father-infant interactions in the family home when the child was aged three months and compared them against the child's behaviour at the age of twelve months.

The researchers found that key aspects of the father-infant interaction, measured very early in children's lives, were associated with an increased risk of behavioural problems in children at an early age. This is the first time that this apparent influence has been demonstrated for observed father-infant interaction and such early onset behaviour problems.

"We found that children whose fathers were more engaged in the interactions had better outcomes, with fewer subsequent behavioural problems," explains Dr Ramchandani. "At the other end of the scale, children tended to have greater behavioural problems when their fathers were more remote and lost in their own thoughts or when their fathers interacted less with them. This association tended to be stronger for boys than for girls, suggesting that perhaps boys are more susceptible to the influence of their father from a very early age.

"We don't yet know whether the fathers being more remote and disengaged are actually causing the behavioural problems in the children, but it does raise the possibility that these early interactions are important."

The researchers believe there are several possible explanations for the association. The lack of paternal engagement could reflect wider problems in family relationships, with fathers who are in a more troubled relationship with their partner finding it more challenging to engage with their infant.

Alternatively, it may reflect a broader lack of supervision and potentially care, for the infant, resulting in an increase in behavioural disturbance. Another possibility is that the infant's behaviour represents its attempt to elicit a parental reaction in response to an earlier lack of parental engagement.

Dr Ramchandani adds: "Focusing on the infant's first few months is important as this is a crucial period for development and the infant is very susceptible to environmental influences, such as the quality of parental care and interaction.

"As every parent knows, raising a child is not an easy task. Our research adds to a growing body of evidence that suggests that intervening early to help parents can make a positive impact on how their infant develops."

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Saturday, July 21, 2012

Why boys who bond with their fathers in the first three months grow up happier

Why boys who bond with their fathers in the first three months grow up happier

Scientists at Oxford University found positive contact with their dads at the age of just three months was linked to better behaviour at a year old - and in later life.

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Tuesday, July 17, 2012

What a disgrace CYF is!

 Another example from the department of dysfunction CYF. How long can sane New Zealanders put up with this foolish culturally sensitive government disorder? Time and time again Maori get another chance to abuse kids, that's why were are world leaders in child abuse. The greedy Maori magpies own the water but take no ownership regarding appalling child abuse statistics. Nothing has changed in the  department of dysfunction since Coral Burrows died. Who killed the Kahui Twins etc....etc...
Who can say they're proud to be a kiwi when our children are the most abused in the world!
What a disgrace CYF is!

Granddaughter 'scared to go home'

Granddaughter 'scared to go home'

Concerns have been raised that two abusive Hawera grandparents will do their time in a home where there are three young children. Kristin Marie Kihi-Leatherby, 44, and Poani Barney Tuisi, 60, were yesterday sentenced to five months' home detention after admitting repeated assaults on their granddaughter when she was aged between 11 and 12.

While there were concerns that there were young children in the house they will serve their time in, it appeared Child,Youth and Family was aware they lived there.
The couple was also ordered to attend domestic violence counselling and a parenting course.
A CYF spokesman said last night the service would comment on the case today.
Ironically, the assaulted girl was put in the custody of her grandparents for her own safety, Crown prosecutor Andrew Britton told New Plymouth District Court yesterday.
From January 2010 to May 2011 she was the victim of numerous assaults with wood, a vacuum cleaner pipe and a leather belt.
In asking for a nine-month jail sentence, Mr Britton said it was inappropriate that Kihi-Leatherby and Tuisi be given home detention because there were three other young children now living at their home. The couple had a lack of remorse and insight into their offending, Mr Britton said.
Since the assaults were discovered, the granddaughter had been moved to live with another family and was now happy.  For Kihi-Leatherby, Rajan Rei said the children in the house lived with their mother and CYF was aware of the situation.

If there were concerns, a protection order could be put in place but none had been sought.
The granddaughter and her two brothers were removed from their natural parents because of neglect. The children did not respect their grandparents and there were behavioural difficulties, Mr Rei said.
Kihi-Leatherby accepted she overstepped the mark and was sorry.
Kelly Marriner, for Tuisi, said the granddaughter suffered no injuries apart from bruising from the pipe.

The couple had asked for help from CYF, which was not forthcoming. They now had the help of kaumatua, one of whom was in court to support them.
Judge Allan Roberts said the granddaughter did not want to see her grandparents again.
"From the time she can remember, she always felt scared going home," the judge said.
The child, who was regularly abused, was entitled to protection and to look to them both for care and love.The violence was routine and premeditation was at a high level.
The couple pleaded guilty on the morning of their trial, sparing the child the ordeal of giving evidence, the judge said.

Friday, July 13, 2012

Petition - Vote for internet freedom.

Big brother government is play dirty again. We can't be far away from government forcibly making people take the mark? Scary future for my gran kids.

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Thursday, July 12, 2012

Family Court shafts another dad.

The complicit media always use the suicide of a father driven to destruction by ruthless family court judges to smear men as murderers . He like many other men took his children with him and makes it EASY to point the blame away from a judicial mafia and onto a father who was pushed to the limit , as many millions of fathers are all across the globe. This is NOT an isolated incident and will remain a major problem until the evil that emanates from family courts are resolved.
MONTREAL - It didn’t take long for Nadine Brillant’s friends to learn that the Quebec City woman’s two children and former partner died Tuesday is an apparent double-homicide and suicide.

After hearing the news on television, a distraught Brillant used Facebook to notify those close to her of the tragedy. “My ex has killed my children, I am crushed,” she wrote. An hour earlier, Brillant had posted that she’d heard on television about a fire in Warwick on the street where her former partner and her children lived – and hoped everything was okay. Hours after the bodies of Jocelyn Marcoux and the couple’s two children were found Tuesday in a burned-out shed behind their home, reporters discovered an angry diatribe against the family court system on Marcoux’s Facebook page.

“I swear by my heart of a father,” he wrote, “that my children will never be mistreated ever again, not even with the blessing of a hypocrite judge.”While many people couldn’t fathom posting such intimate details of their private lives online, the surge in popularity of social media sites like Facebook has made the website an accepted place to express joy and sorrow, experts say.“People are using Facebook like a personal journal or diary where they express their deepest feelings,” said Pierre Trudel, a Université de Montréal law professor, who studies social media. “There is a tendency to use Facebook as a communication tool, instead of the telephone. We are seeing this more and more. People know if they go there, someone will be listening.”

More and more, parents involved in child-custody battles and youth protection cases in Quebec are using social media sites to denounce court ruling that they are unhappy with. Last year, Quebec’s youth protection officials sent letters to some parents demanding they remove personal information about their children that they had posted on websites. Quebec law prevents anyone from identifying children who are being followed by youth protection. Posting too many details about custody battles can be risky because it can used against the parent when the case goes to court, Trudel suggested.

While Facebook may offer parents involved in child custody fights a forum to vent, problems can arise when one parent begins to receive feedback from friends who encourage them to maintain their stance and not compromise with their partner.“People can respond and encourage them to do things that are not in the child’s interest,” said Abe Worenklein, who teaches psychology at Concordia University and Dawson College. “They say things like: ‘That happened to me and don’t give up.’ The person (posting on Facebook) feels validated, but for the wrong reasons.”

Across Canada, 90 per cent of child custody cases are settled out of court. However, the 10 per cent that drag on through the courts are often acrimonious.“In many of these cases, emotions cloud judgment,” Worenklein said. “Communication between parents is so important.”



Monday, July 9, 2012

Pommy hospitals help people die quicker

The motherland has lost the plot, but the same could be said about New Zealand. It's really cold tonight and thousands of homeless people sleep rough in my devastated city.The callous gummint don't care, as they are too busy dealing with the greedy Maoris who reckon they own the air and water. The Western World is up shitters ditch because the fools want to make homosexual marriage their satanic crusade.

God help us all!

Saturday, July 7, 2012

Muslim Women

Muslim Women
  20 years from now, I will be in Heaven --bye !!
  This was written by a woman born in Egypt as a Muslim.
  This is not hearsay, and it will scare the life out of you.
  Make sure you read the paragraph (in red) towards the end.

  Joys of Muslim Women
  By Nonie Darwish

In the Muslim faith a Muslim man can marry a child as young as 1 year old and  have sexual intimacy with this child. Consummating the marriage by 9.

The dowry is given to the family in exchange for the woman (who becomes his  slave)and for the purchase of the private parts of the woman, to use her as a toy.

Even though a woman is abused she can not obtain a divorce.

To prove rape, the woman must have (4) male witnesses.

 Often after a woman has been raped, she is returned to her family and the  family must return the dowry.

The family has the right to! execute her (an honor killing) to restore the  honor of the family.
Husbands can beat their wives 'at will' and he does not have to say why he  has beaten her. The husband is permitted to have (4 wives) and a temporary wife for an hour  (prostitute) at his discretion.
The Shariah Muslim law controls the private as well as the public life of the  woman.

In the West World ( America and Britain and Australia ) Muslim men are  starting to demand Shariah Law so the wife can not obtain a divorce and he  can have full and complete control of her.
It is amazing and alarming how many of our sisters and daughters attending  Universities are now marrying Muslim men and submitting themselves and their  children unsuspectingly to the Shariah law.

By passing this on, enlightened women may avoid becoming a slave under  Shariah Law ripping the West in Two.

 Author and lecturer Nonie Darwish says the goal of radical Islamists is to  impose Shariah law on the world,ripping Western law and liberty in two.She recently authored the book, Cruel and Usual Punishment: The Terrifying  Global Implications of Islamic Law. Darwish was born in Cairo and spent her childhood in Egypt and Gaza before  immigrating to America in 1978.When she was eight years old her father died while leading covert attacks on  Israel . He was a high-ranking Egyptian military officer stationed with his family in  Gaza ......When he died, he was considered a "shahid," a martyr for jihad. His  posthumous status earned Nonie and her family an elevated position in Muslim  society.But Darwish developed a skeptical eye at an early age. She questioned her own  Muslim culture and upbringing.. She converted to Christianity after hearing a Christian preacher on  television.

 In her latest book, Darwish warns about creeping sharia law - what it is,  what it means, and how it is manifested in Islamic countries.For the West, she says radical Islamists are working to impose sharia on the  world.If that happens, Western civilization will be destroyed.Westerners generally assume all religions encourage a respect for the dignity  of each individual. Islamic law (Sharia) teaches that non-Muslims should be subjugated or killed  in this world. Peace and prosperity for one's children is not as important as assuring that  Islamic law rules Everywhere in the Middle East and eventually in the world.While Westerners tend to think that all religions encourage some form of the  golden rule,
  Sharia teaches two systems of ethics - one for Muslims and another for  non-Muslims. Building on tribal practices of the seventh century,
  Sharia encourages the side of humanity that wants to take from and subjugate  others.
  While Westerners tend to think in terms of religious people developing a  personal understanding of and relationship with God, Sharia advocates executing people who ask difficult questions that could be  interpreted as criticism.

  It's hard to imagine, that in this day and age, Islamic scholars agree that  those who criticize Islam or
  choose to stop being Muslim should be executed.
  Sadly, while talk of an Islamic reformation is common and even assumed by  many in the West,
  such murmurings in the Middle East are silenced through intimidation.
  While Westerners are accustomed to an increase in religious tolerance over  time,
  Darwish explains how petro dollars are being used to grow an extremely  intolerant form
  of political Islam in her native Egypt and elsewhere.

In twenty years there will be  enough Muslim voters in the U.S. And Britain To elect the Government by  themselves!Rest assured they will do so..

  You can look at how they have taken over several towns in the USA ...  Dearborn Mich. Is one...
  And there are others..) ( Britain has several cities now totally controlled  by Muslims)

Everyone in Australia, U.S. and Great  Britain should be required to read this, but with the ACLU, there is no way this  will be widely publicized, unless each of us sends it on!  It is too bad  that so many are disillusioned with life and Christianity to accept Muslims  as peaceful..

  Some may be but they have an army that is willing to shed blood in the name  of Islam..
  The peaceful support the warriors with their finances and own kind of  patriotism to their religion.
  While America and Britain is getting rid of Christianity from all public  sites and erasing God from the lives of children the Muslims are planning a great jihad on America .. ( Britain  and probably Australia) ....

  This is your chance to make a difference...! Pass it on to your email list or  at least those you think will listen..

  Some of those I'm sending it to, WILL NOT!

The new government symbol is announced

  The New Government Symbol


The government today announced that it is changing its symbol for Parliament to a CONDOM, because it more accurately reflects the government's political stance.....  

A condom allows for inflation, halts production, destroys the next generation, protects a bunch of dicks, and gives you a sense of security while you're actually being screwed!

Damn, it just doesn't get more accurate than that!

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Fathers4Justice advert banned:why?

No wonder real fathers view the motherland as a feminist  tool that undermines fatherhood.


Tuesday, July 3, 2012

A blog to help those stuck in a PAS nightmare.

To have a corrupt family court and police tell a totally innocent father he is never to have contact with his children because the sick gender bias system believes lies made by a vengeful and vindictive maternal family is the most heartbreaking trauma anybody can endure.

The court and police got it wrong again, but  who cares in this disgusting land of liars and criminals who call themselves judges and lawyers.

A highly recommend blog for anyone struggling with the PAS nightmare.