Friday, December 30, 2011

Super Dad wanted at Super Bowl.

Dear peter:
As you know, we are working hard to raise awareness of the importance of fathering.
Our latest promotion is to find a Super Dad to send to the Super Bowl (along with his son or daughter).
By giving away two tickets to the Super Bowl, we hope to raise awareness by honoring dads who love and coach their children.
We are pretty excited about this promotion, and we need your help.
Could you forward this email to anyone and everyone you know who might be interested in entering the contest to win the tickets, or who might be able to somehow promote the contest?
This includes dads, father figures, grandfathers, moms, celebrities, and media contacts …
We truly want to change the culture of fathering. We believe that every child needs an involved father, yet our country is experiencing a frightening trend toward fatherlessness.
Please help us fight this trend and place the importance of fathering right where it belongs: front and center!
Here are the contest details.
And if you have any questions, hit the reply button and let me know!
Carey Casey
P.S. The Super Bowl is fast-approaching, so please forward this email ASAP!

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

S.c.u.m murder dance party and credits you tube

New Male Studies : An International Journal

New Male Studies: An International Journal

Well,well well, it is so good to see that some of the time and effort is starting to produce better things. Here is a brand new academic journal being published on males -- and not the pro-feminist sludge! It's so encouraging that society would even bother to worry about the state of the male species, because for so many decades now, radical feminazi whores have demonized men to the point where all men are thought of as rapists. Radical feminists have a lot to answer for. Kids need dads too bitch!

Anyway this is a good read;

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

I have found an honest lawyer.

Oh my, an honest family lawyer really. Shit I had given up on family court lawyers years ago . I liken them to maggots feasting on a rotten carcass.My travesty of justice family court file was dragged through the blood for about 10 years and in that time I never encountered one honest lawyer. I lost count of legal aid lawyers stabbing me in the back after 50 of the leeches had told lies about me to an equally dishonest judge.

Maybe if the first lawyers involved in my disgusting family court case back in 2001 had of acted with honesty and integrity then it could have saved the taxpayer a couple of million dollars and stopped unmeasurable heartache for the paternal family involved in soul destroying  litigation?
Maybe my mum would still be alive Mr John Watson ( Christchurch Family Court psychologist) ?

 Lawyers who acted dishonestly to which I can prove in a court of law are;

Doug Taffs and Martin Sawyers from Westport.

Paul Finnigan, Geoff Kean and Chris Robertson from Ashburton.

Siobhan McNulty,Adrienne Edwards and Tony Greig from Christchurch.

Please feel free to sue me if you scum of the earth liars can muster up enough courage to look me in the eye and tell me you are really sorry for all the lies!

Most family court lawyers are the lowest of the low. I would rather trust a gang member on P than these pieces of shit. These liars just stack one lie on top of another lie so they can gather money from all the false testimony that is flung around in that sick gravy train Kangaroo Court.

Friday, December 23, 2011

Merry Christmas all

I wish you all a very happy Christmas.

I am heading south as I need a break from the rocking and rolling going on in my city Christchurch.

I feel sorry for the frightened children of Canterbury.

I pray my God protects them.

I pray that everybody has a safe and merry Christmas.

God bless you.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Sadist mongrel bitch kiwi mother jailed

Who in their right mind can say they're proud to be a kiwi when we are world champions at child abuse? I am disgusted by these crimes.

No doubt the feminazi judiciary and girlymen keystone cops will forget about this savage abuse inflicted by a over weight female come next white ribbon day!

 Oh yes Ms Dyke Keystone cop - who killed the Kahui Twins you pathetic pc wimps?
This thing that goes by the name of a woman should be shot in the head with a 45cal then thrown into the offal pit.

Once again folks I reiterate  Child Youth and Family (CYF) is SO dysfunctional it's dangerous to all kiwi kids.

There must be a better way Mr John Watson, because the government department you helped create is a horrific disaster. You and your cronies should be happy at the mayhem and spilled blood resulting from a sinister department of gender bias control freaks who are no better than this criminal bitch beast.

When I expose CYF for what they really are, I expect you to do serious prison time Mr Watson.
Merry Christmas creep.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Israeli Prime Minister Netanyahu Sends Christmas Greetings to Israeli Christians

Israeli Prime Minister Netanyahu Sends Christmas Greetings to Israeli  Christians

  Benjamin Netanyahu - Israel Office of the Prime Minister

"During  these perilous times, as God's people, we need to intensify our support for  Israel, the nation fighting to protect the world," says Robert Stearns,  founder and director of Eagles' Wings, a global movement of churches,  ministries and leaders. "As we remember the coming of our Savior to this  earth, we must protect the Holy Land of His Covenant and keep it holy, which  makes the prime minister's greetings so important." -Robert Stearns,  founder and director of Eagles' Wings
FOUNDING  EDITOR'S NOTE: Robert Stearns sent a request for me to send out this story as  far and wide as I could to our Christian readers. As far as I am concerned,  Netanyahu is a hero to both his country, Israel, and ours, the United States  of America. -Steve Shultz,

(Israel)?The  office of the prime minister of Israel has released a video of Benjamin  Netanyahu thanking Christians for their support. Here are some excerpts from  that message:
"I want to wish the Christian citizens of  Israel, as well as Christians around the world, a Merry Christmas and a Happy  New Year. Israel is proud of its strong and growing Christian community, and  we are proud of the deep and passionate support of so many Christian friends  of Israel around the world."

"We  are living in a time of great uncertainty and instability in the Middle East  and Israel, throughout this instability, remains a beacon of religious  freedom and pluralism. In a region where Christians are routinely persecuted  and where there is little tolerance for the faith of others, Israel  safeguards the holy places of the great religion and ensures freedom of  worship for all."
To  watch the video Christmas greeting from Netanyahu, follow the link provided:

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Brazil ratifies laws against parental alienation

Brazil ratifies laws against parental alienation

Brazil's 200 million people are the first national jurisdiction to outlaw Parental Alienation.

It is now against the law to alienate a child or tenager from a parent or that parents extended family.

See below Google translation of the law in english.

Law 12 318

Ratified law that defines and punishes parental alienation

See below for the full law 12.318/10 which provides for parental alienation.


Law No. 12 318, DE 26 AUGUST 2010

Provides for parental alienation and amending Act. 236 of Law No. 8069 of July 13, 1990.


I know that the Congress decrees and I sanction the following Law:

Article 1 This Law provides for parental alienation.

Section 2 is considered an act of parental alienation interference with psychological training of the child or adolescent promoted or induced by a parent, grandparent or by having the child or adolescent under his authority, custody or supervision so dismissive parent or adversely affecting the establishment or maintenance of ties with it.

Sole Paragraph. Exemplary are forms of parental alienation, and acts as declared by the judge or discovered by expertise, or charged directly with the aid of third parties:

I - opening campaign of disqualification of the parent's conduct in the exercise of parenthood;

II - hinder the exercise of parental authority;

III - hinder contact with child or teen parent;

IV - to hamper the right of regulated family life;

V - the parent deliberately omit relevant personal information about the child or adolescent, including educational, medical and changes of address;

VI - to present false complaint against parent, family against this or against grandparents, to obstruct or hinder their coping with the child or adolescent;

VII - change the address to the remote site, without justification, in order to hamper the coexistence of the child or adolescent with the other parent, with this family or grandparents.

Article 3 The performance of an act of parental alienation hurts fundamental right of the child or adolescent family life healthier, prevent the implementation of affection in relationships with parent and the family group, is moral abuse against the child or adolescent and noncompliance with duties attached to parental authority or from guardianship or custody.

Article 4 Declared clue act of parental alienation, the application or letter at any time of procedure, or incidentally in autonomous action, the process will have priority processing, and the judge will determine, with urgency, after hearing the prosecutor, the interim measures for maintenance of psychological integrity of the child or adolescent, including to ensure their familiarity with parent or make an effective rapprochement between the two, if any.

Sole Paragraph. It will ensure the child or adolescent and the parent assisted minimum guarantee of visitation, except in cases where there is imminent risk of injury to physical or psychological integrity of the child or adolescent, certified by any professional designated by the judge for monitoring visits .

Article 5 If there is evidence of the practice act of parental alienation in autonomous action or incidental damages, the judge, if necessary, determine biopsychosocial or psychological expertise.

§ 1 The expert report will be based on extensive psychological evaluation or biopsychosocial, as appropriate, including even a personal interview with the parties, examination of documents in the file, the couple's relationship history, split chronology of incidents, personality assessment involved and the investigation of how the child or adolescent is manifested about possible charges against the parents.

§ 2 The skill will be performed by professional or skilled multidisciplinary team, required in any case, proven by fitness professional or academic history to diagnose acts of parental alienation.

§ 3 The expert or a multidisciplinary team appointed to assess the occurrence of parental alienation will within 90 (ninety) days to submit the report, renewable only by judicial authorization based on detailed justification.

Article 6 Featured typical acts of parental alienation or any conduct that hamper the coexistence of child or adolescent parent, or incidental to autonomous action, the judge may, together or separately, subject to civil or criminal liability arising from and the extensive use of suitable legal instruments to inhibit or mitigate its effects, according to the severity of the case:

I - declare the occurrence of parental alienation and warn the seller;

II - expand the system of family life in favor of the alienated parent;

III - provide fine to seller;

IV - require counseling and / or biopsychosocial;

V - to determine the change of custody to joint custody or its reversal;

VI - to determine the setting of interim home of the child or adolescent;

VII - to declare the suspension of parental authority.

Sole Paragraph. Marked change of address abusive, impracticability or obstruction to family, the court may also reverse the obligation to take or remove the child or teen parent's residence, during the alternating periods of family life.

Article 7 The allocation or change of custody will be given preference by the parent that enables the effective coexistence of the child or adolescent with the other parent in cases where it is impracticable to custody.

Article 8 The change of domicile of the child or adolescent is irrelevant to the determination of competence related to actions founded on right to family life, unless the result of consensus between the parents or a court decision.

Article 9 (VETOED)

Article 10. (VETOED)

Article 11. This Law shall enter into force upon its publication.

Brasília, August 26, 2010, 189 and 122 of the Independence of the Republic.


Luiz Paulo Teles Ferreira Barreto

Paulo de Tarso Vannuchi


Saturday, December 17, 2011

Questionable CDC Violence Survey.

CDC Violence Survey: Unexpected Findings, Questionable Definitions

Stop Abusive and Violent Environments

December 17, 2011

This past week newspapers across the country were filled with headlines such as, “Nearly one in five U.S. women has been a victim of sexual assault.” The accounts were based on a report recently released by the US Centers for Disease Control called the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey:

But not surprisingly, the media got the story wrong. Here’s why.


The CDC survey was originally designed to assess the extent and nature of intimate partner aggression, as well as the related areas of sexual violence, stalking, and psychological aggression. The CDC commendably wanted to analyze the issue in greater detail than previous efforts.

The most important conclusion of the survey was men and women have nearly equal rates of intimate partner violence, with 6.5% of men and 6.3% of women experiencing partner aggression in the previous 12 months (pages 43-44). This conclusion is consistent with previous CDC surveys and other scholarly investigations on this subject (

But SAVE’s review of media accounts did not identify a single story that reported this overarching finding.

The 108-page CDC report contains other findings that challenge the received wisdom of many organizations in the domestic violence field. One of these pertains to psychological aggression. In the previous 12 months, 18.1% of men and 13.9% of women had experienced by their intimate partner, according to the survey (page 46).

Looking specifically at coercive control, men were 50% more likely to have experienced coercive control than women (Men: 15.2%; Women: 10.7%). Traditional domestic violence organizations often define domestic violence as a “pattern of power and control.”

Based on this formulation, women are clearly the most frequent perpetrators of abuse.

One aspect of partner aggression centers on the issue reproductive control. Discussions of this topic typically portray the male as scheming to impregnate a wife or girlfriend who doesn’t wish to become pregnant. But the CDC survey shows the opposite scenario is more true.

The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey reveals that 8.7% of men currently have an intimate partner who tried to get pregnant when he did not want to, or tried to stop either of them from using birth control. In comparison, only 4.8% of women currently have a partner who tried to get her pregnant when she didn’t want to (page 48).

So men are nearly twice as likely as women to be victims of reproductive control.

The CDC report also contains information about rape and other forms of sexual victimization. But the CDC’s definition of rape is highly controversial, because in addition to “completed forced penetration,” it also includes “attempted forced penetration”and “completed alcohol/drug facilitated penetration.”

In the area of criminal justice law, a criminal attemptis not counted the same as the actual commission. For example, FBI homicide statistics do not include attempted homicides. So the inclusion of attempts artificially inflates the true prevalence of rape.

The inclusion of “completed alcohol/drug facilitated penetration” is equally problematic. It is not difficult to identify a number of scenarios in which actions thus defined as “rape”contradict any logical or reasonable conception of rape. For example:
  • A woman decides she wants to have sex with her partner. So she invites him to a bar where they drink five beers, then go to her apartment for sex.
  • A woman wants to have sex, so she goes to a singles party where everyone is smoking marijuana. She meets up with a man and they both decide to have sex.
Because of these definitional problems, SAVE concludes the CDC findings about sexual violence lack validity and are fundamentally flawed.

Citing a “history of twisting rape statistics,”columnist Robert VerBruggen likewise notes about the CDC report,“Researchers ask women about their sexual experiences, and then classify some experiences as ‘rape’ that most people, including the women themselves, do not consider to be rape.” (

The CDC report contains additional evidence of sex bias, which will be addressed in future reports by Stop Abusive and Violent Environments.

Teri C. Stoddard, Program Director
Stop Abusive and Violent Environments
P.O. Box 1221
Rockville, MD 20849
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working for evidence-based solutions to domestic violence.
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Friday, December 16, 2011

Study shows fatherless boys more prone to delinquency

Study shows fatherless boys more prone to delinquency
by Thaddeus Baklinski
Mon Dec 12 3:39 PM EST
MELBOURNE, Australia, December 12, 2011 ( - A study carried out by the Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research at the University of Melbourne has found that adolescent boys who have a father figure in their lives are significantly less likely to engage in subsequent delinquent behavior than are their peers with no father in their lives.
“The sense of security generated by the presence of a male role model in a youth‟s life has protective effects for a child, regardless of the degree of interaction between the child and father,” said Professor Deborah Cobb-Clark, Director of the Melbourne Institute and lead author of the study
“Fathers provide children with male role models and can influence children’s preferences, values and attitudes, while giving them a sense of security and boosting their self-esteem. They also increase the degree of adult supervision at home, which may lead to a direct reduction of delinquent behaviour,” she said.
The study used American data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health. Three factors were studied in the role of fathers influencing youth delinquency: parental involvement and interaction, contribution to household income and engagement with a father figure by simply being present at home.
Unlike previous studies this research examined the full range of father figure roles and modern family structures, Professor Cobb-Clark explained.
“Our study included residential and non-residential, biological fathers and residential stepfathers and their influence on adolescent behaviours. Our detailed data also allowed us to simultaneously consider mothers’ relationships with their children as well as the multiple pathways through which fathers might matter.”
The study found that any form of delinquent behavior was reduced by 7.6 percentage points for boys who were living with their biological fathers, and 5 percentage points for those living with non-biological fathers only.
“Fathers are associated with a particularly large reduction in the incidence of violent behavior and gang fighting among adolescent boys,” the study notes.
The researchers also say that while increased involvement with their sons is related to decreased incidence of delinquency, the largest portion of the positive effects appear to be related to the mere presence of a father figure, regardless of the level of involvement.
“Overall, when taken together our results strongly suggest that much of the overall (baseline) impact of fathers on their adolescent sons’ delinquent behavior reflects the effect of fathers’ presence rather than their involvement with their sons or the financial contribution they make to household income,” they write.
The researchers found, on the other hand, that the presence of a father figure did not have a major impact on the levels of delinquency amongst daughters.
“Adolescent girls’ behaviours are less closely linked to this, which may be attributed to the inherent levels of risk-taking that vary between males and females,” Professor Cobb-Clark concluded.
The full text of the study titled, “Fathers and Youths’ Delinquent Behaviour” is available here.
Copyright © 2010, Inc. All rights reserved.
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Wednesday, December 14, 2011

A Short Love Story


A man and a woman who had never met before,
but who were both married to other people,
found themselves assigned to the same sleeping room on a transcontinental train.

Though initially embarrassed and uneasy over sharing a room,
they were both very tired and fell asleep quickly, he in the upper berth and she in the lower.

At 1 : 00 AM, the man leaned down and gently woke the woman saying,...........'Ma'am,

I'm sorry to bother you, but would you be willing to reach into the closet to get me a second blanket?

I'm awfully cold'

'I have a better idea,' she replied 'Just for tonight......let's pretend that we're married'

'Wow!......................That's a great idea!' he exclaimed..

'Good,' she replied................'Get your own blanket.'

After a moment of silence, .........................he farted.

The End

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Family First highlights shameful child abuse stats.

Media Release 10 Dec 2011
Family First is rejecting claims by the Children’s Commissioner and others that rising child abuse statistics are ‘good news’ and ‘delightful’, and is repeating its call for a Royal Commission of Inquiry into child abuse as a result of continuing ‘tragic’ figures.
“It is time we stopped ‘marketing’ child abuse statistics and trying to give them a positive spin, under the illusion that we are succeeding. We need a reality check,” says Bob McCoskrie, National Director of Family First NZ.
“The rates of child abuse have been rocketing up for the last decade – even before the flawed anti-smacking law was passed and the Family Violence awareness campaign began. Between 2003 and 2007 alone, notifications more than doubled from 31,000 to 72,000. The latest statistics give no confidence that children are any safer.”
“To label our atrocious statistics as ‘good news’ and ‘delightful’ is an insult to the victims. Government groups cannot attribute the increase to greater awareness and better practice. The rates have been increasing markedly well before the public awareness campaigns, and the increase in admissions to Starship Hospital alone are proof that the problem is deterioriating.”
“Alcohol and drug abuse are rampant in dysfunctional homes, family breakdown is a festering sore, and there is increasing violence in our culture. These are all signs that things will get worse before they get better.”
“We have had Commission of Inquiries this year into the Pike river tragedy, the collapse of buildings and consequent loss of life in the Christchurch earthquake – yet no inquiry into one of the greatest social problems facing the country.”
“There seems to be no political party who is willing to front up to this issue on the scale required. Since the passing of the anti-smacking law, there have been at least 31 child abuse deaths. The rate continues unabated.”
“The ongoing rates of child abuse are a wake-up call that children will never be safe until we are honest enough as a country to identify and tackle the real causes of child abuse. An independent Inquiry free of political correctness and point-scoring is essential. We need long-term solutions to a problem that has existed for far too long,” says Mr McCoskrie.

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Family law petition.

 Hi Everyone

Please find attached our family law petition. It was composed by one of our NCPP(EP) candidates, Wayne Hartman.
We fully support the comments made in the petition.
Our aim is to obtain 10,000 signatures and present it to Parliament. We work on the basis that one (1) signature would be worth 10 votes to the politicians. Therefore the more signatures that we have, then the more the politicians will listen.
Would please download the petition, sign it and return it to
John Flanagan
PO Box 80,
Petition details can be also located at either (at the bottom of the page)
or (at the right hand side of the page)
or simply downloaded directly at:

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Father Wins Costs Against Family Court

This article from menz is interesting. The vengeful and vindictive Judge Burns mentioned (no relation thank God) was the former Law Society president who fobbed my legitimate Family Court complaint years ago.This miserable gender bias sod should not sit behind a bench that claims to act in the children's best interests. Maybe I should appeal again in the Auckland High Court so the public of New Zealand can understand the unfair persecution many fathers face when confronted by a spiteful and hateful judiciary?


In a number of recent decisions the High Court has criticised a number of orders made by Auckland Family Court judges as “offensive” and “inconsistent” with the Care of Children Act. The judges who made the invalid orders are Judge Jan Walker, Judge David Burns (twice) and Judge Timothy Druce.

Thursday, December 8, 2011

More evidence CYF is fatal for kiwi kids!'not-aware'-of-baby-killer's-violent-history

Child, Youth and Family says if it had known the violent history of a man convicted for murdering a six-month-old baby he was living with it would have intervened.
James Hemana, 31, has been found guilty in the Auckland High Court on Thursday of murdering Cezar Taylor.
The baby was shaken and dropped by Hemana on 13 July last year and died from severe head injuries in hospital 10 days later.
Hemana had previously admitted charges of manslaughter and failing to provide the necessaries of life, but maintained that he did not murder the boy. He will be sentenced on 8 March next year.
Hemana had been living with the baby's mother, Victoria Taylor, 21, at the time.
The department's chief social worker, Paul Nixon, says Hemana lied to social workers who visited Cezar Taylor's home and says they had no information that the boy was at risk of physical abuse.
Mr Nixon told Radio New Zealand's Checkpoint programme on Thursday a social worker was assigned to work with Ms Taylor, but says only later did the department learn that Hemana was threatening her and what he was doing to Cezar.

Police believe death could have been avoided

The officer in charge of the investigation says it has been a very disturbing case and Cezar's death could have been avoided.
Detective Senior Sergeant Richard Wilkie told Checkpoint on Thursday that prevention is the best defence against assaults on children.
Mr Wilkie said anyone who identified risks in a relationship to their children should come forward to government services and agencies.
Speaking to reporters outside the court, Mr Wilkie said the guilty verdict sends a strong message that children must be protected.
"We need to protect our children, our young ones. Police will do their utmost in providing a professional investigation and that working with the Crown we can put the best case forward."

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

UK student to sue over gender bias against men

The gender bias authorities in New Zealand persecuted an innocent father for nearly a decade so I decided to sue the government only to have the corrupt Human Rights Review Tribunal strike it out as frivolous and order substantial costs to be paid to the crown. See lies do pay off in a feminist country where the judiciary are gender bias scum of the earth. So a falsely accused father cannot clear his name in a system saturated with unlawful gender discrimination. What is he to do your honour? Tick,tick,tick.........................

Revenge is mine says the Lord.

Anyway good luck to this UK man.

Former student sues LSE over its 'gender bias' against men                     

The London School of Economics is facing legal action after a former student claimed its gender studies course was sexist - against men.
Tom Martin, who quit the university after six weeks, claims in papers lodged at the Central London county court that lecturers ignored male issues.
He is claiming some £50,000 citing breach of contract, misleading advertising, misrepresentation, and breach of the Gender Equality Duty Act.
The 39-year-old, who attended the university last year to take up a Gender, Media and Culture Masters degree, said there was "systemic anti-male discrimination". But he said an internal investigation carried out by the university in the wake of his complaints found "no evidence" of bias.
Mr Martin, who is representing himself, said: "The core texts we had to read before each class were typically packed with anti-male discrimination and bias - heavily focusing on, exaggerating, and falsifying women's issues perspectives, whilst blaming men, to justify ignoring men's issues. There was no warning of this sexist agenda in the prospectus."
He added: "They simply refuse to acknowledge the research which contradicts the 'women good/men bad', or the 'women victims/men perpetrators' storyline.
"Science does not come into it at LSE's Gender Institute. Like a religion, the curriculum simply insists, by repetition, attempting to drum the anti-male agenda into the students."
The university's legal team has asked for the case to be struck out, claiming the core texts were not compulsory, merely recommended readings, and that the texts were equally available for both men and women to read, so therefore did not directly discriminate against men. The team also argues that "any discriminatory effect [against men] was plainly justifiable".

Monday, December 5, 2011

CYF is so dysfunctional it's dangerous to all children.

CYF is so dysfunctional it's dangerous to all children. CYF must be destroyed . The vile Family Court enjoy creating nightmares for young kiwi children. How long must we taxpayers endure such a failure government department? Nobody cares about kiwi kids just look at child abuse stats!!!

A three-year-old boy was forced to eat a cigarette butt by his Child, Youth and Family (CYF) guardians.

Despite continued complaints, the boy and his brother were left with the Christchurch guardian family for five years.

CYF has begun an investigation into the caregivers, and no more children will be placed in their care until it is completed.

The boys were placed in the guardians' care in 2006.

Their mother, who approached The Press, has made a sworn affidavit to the Family Court in Christchurch in a bid to end the guardianship order.

She said she approached CYF for help in 2004 because of her "drug use" and "transient lifestyle" and a violent relationship with the children's father.

The affidavit refers to several CYF reports on the children.

In 2007, CYF was told one of the boys picked up a cigarette butt, put it in his mouth and spat it out again.

He was then taken inside the house and made to eat the cigarette butt and allegedly told: "If it's good enough for you to do it outside, it's good enough to do it inside. Go on, chew it."

The foster mother told CYF investigators she made the child eat the cigarette butt as he often picked things up and put them in his mouth.

The CYF investigator said the foster mother did not do it to punish the boy but to attempt to change his behaviour.

CYF was told the house was a "DIY bombshell", with the play area covered with debris and nails.

An investigator found the backyard was "not safe for any child to be playing in".

Another allegation of ongoing verbal and physical abuse towards the boy's brother was deemed to be unfounded.

In May 2010, a case report noted the children were "suffering alleged ongoing physical and emotional abuse by the caregivers".

It said the notifications of ongoing abuse were continuous, came from different agencies and could not be "assumed to be malicious". The children needed a new long-term home, the report said.

Two months earlier, the guardians told CYF workers looking into concerns about smacking that the children "do not get bashed" but got "a tap on the hand". They were told this was not a "good idea" by CYF as "it could open them up to accusations".

In October this year, the children were removed from the guardians' care.

CYF southern regional director Kelly Anderson said yesterday an investigation had started into allegations against the caregivers, "particularly around the way in which they have managed the boys' behaviour".

"Until that is complete, no children will be placed with this couple," she said. The boys were placed with the caregivers with the agreement of the family as a result of their mother being unable to provide care for them, she said.

"We have worked with the family over time to address concerns about parenting and how they were managing the boys' behaviour; for example, by requiring the couple to undertake parenting courses, further caregiver training and use of respite care," Anderson said.

- The Press


Friday, December 2, 2011

Love,Laugh,Listen and Learn

 Love, Laugh, Listen and Learn


The quality of Love, Laughter, Listening and Learning within a family are the key factors in its happiness and success. These four values are the foundation of any happy, healthy family and society.

The family is the most basic and important unit of any society or nation. Without healthy, functioning families, a culture cannot survive.


"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." - Leo Buscaglia
The three words 'I love you' are probably the most powerful words a man can say. The greatest challenge is to put them into practice.
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things.
Love is Unconditional. Love is an activity, not simply a feeling.
Research has shown that love has: health, well being, financial and wisdom benefits
The experts who understand what works, have one thing in common. . . they know that couples who succeed have the same problems as couples who fail. . . the difference is in how they deal with their problems when they are not enjoying each other.
Every time you are about to make a decision think: "What would love do now?"
It is the dream of the Fatherhood Foundation to empower you as a father so you can be the greatest father in the world for your children. Love will always be the foundation for that greatness.
"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother." - Theodore M Hesburgh
"The love we give away is the only love we keep." - Elbert Hubbard

Children on Love
"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs."
Chrissy - age 6"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
Terri - age 4
"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
Bobby - age 5
"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."
Rebecca - age 8
Woody Allen quoted that 80% of success is showing up.
While merely showing up at home, to work, to an interview, sporting event etc. - won’t guarantee success, it’s certainly a prerequisite.
Children with involved Dads are:
  • more ambitious
  • less susceptible to peer pressure
  • more competent
  • more self reliant
  • more self confident with adult males and females
(Resource: Centre for Successful Fathering, Inc.)

Without a Father in a child’s life he or she is:
  • 32 times more likely to run away
  • 5 times more likely to commit suicide
  • 9 times more likely to drop out of high school
  • 2.5 times more likely to become a teen parent
  • 37% more likely to abuse drugs
  • twice as likely to live in poverty
  • twice as likely to commit a crime
(Resource: DHHS Fatherhood Statistics)


Of all the goals we may pursue in life, love and happiness are the only ones to have worth in themselves; all the others - health, power, money, work, beauty, success - make sense only as means of achieving love and happiness.
"Children learn to smile from their parents." - Shinichi Suzuki
Laughter is vital to successful parenting. Laughter is vital for your children to have fun and for you to keep your sanity.
Laughter is the shortest distance between two people and a cheerful heart is good medicine.
Laughter strengthens family relationships and helps keep you and your children in good health.
Parenting can be a serious business, but your children will teach you to laugh again if you allow them to.
Children laugh about 300 to 400 times a day. Adults laugh an average of 12 to 17 times a day. While in the 1930's it was estimated that people laughed approximately 16 to 18 minutes daily, now we are doing well if we manage to laugh for 6 minutes every day.
Scientists estimate that laughing 100 times is equivalent to a 10-minute workout on a rowing machine, or to 15 minutes on a stationary exercise bike. The mere act of laughing exercises the diaphragm, as well as the abdominal, respiratory, facial, leg, and back muscles.
Laughter is the BEST MEDICINE!
Health Benefits of Laughter
  • reduce stress
  • lower blood pressure
  • elevate mood
  • boost immune system
  • improve brain functioning
  • protect the heart
  • connect you to others
  • foster instant relaxation
  • makes you feel good
Mental Health Benefits of Laughter
  • Humour enhances our ability to affiliate or connect with others.
  • Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.
  • Humour unites us, especially when we laugh together.
  • Laughter heals.
  • Laughs and smiles are enjoyed best when shared with others.
  • Humour changes behaviour – when we experience humour we talk more, make more eye contact with others, touch others, etc.
  • Humour increases energy, and with increased energy we may perform activities that we might otherwise avoid.
  • Finally, humour is good for mental health because it makes us feel good!
Good health is one of the many benefits of laughter. Laughter reduces our stress levels by reducing the level of stress hormones, and also helps us cope with serious illnesses.
Learn and tell jokes, get out comedy movies, do things that make you happy and laugh.
"He who has achieved success has worked well, laughed often and loved much." - Elbert Hubbard
"You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humour in anything -even poverty-you can survive it." - Bill Cosby


How smart is NASA
When NASA first started sending up astronauts, they quickly discovered that ballpoint pens would not work in zero gravity. To combat the problem, NASA scientists spent a decade and $12 billion to develop a pen that writes in zero gravity, upside down, underwater, on almost any surface including glass and at temperatures ranging from below freezing to 300°C.
The Russians used a pencil.
Make a Million Dollars in a minute
A man trying to understand the nature of God asked him: "God, how long is a million years to you?"
God answered: "A million years is like a minute."
Then the man asked: "God, how much is a million dollars to you?"
And God replied: "A million dollars is like a penny."
Finally, the man asked: "God, could you give me a penny?"
And God said, "In a minute."
Sherlock Holmes Tests Dr Watson deduction capabilities
Sherlock Holmes and Dr Watson go on a camping trip. After a good dinner and a bottle of wine, they retire for the night, and go to sleep.
Some hours later, Holmes wakes up and nudges his faithful friend. "Watson, look up at the sky and tell me what you see."
“I see millions and millions of stars, Holmes” replies Watson.
"And what do you deduce from that?"
Watson ponders for a minute. "Well,
Astronomically, it tells me that there are millions of galaxies and potentially billions of planets.
Astrologically, I observe that Saturn is in Leo.
Horologically, I deduce that the time is approximately a quarter past three.
Meteorologically, I suspect that we will have a beautiful day tomorrow.
Theologically, I can see that God is all powerful, and that we are a small and insignificant part of the universe.
But what does it tell you, Holmes?"
Holmes is silent for a moment.
"Watson, you idiot!" he says. "Someone has stolen our tent!


"The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them." - Ralph Nichols
Listening is a learned art form that is rarely practised. When we listen to people we honour them and give weight to their words.
When we listen to our children we show them our love by our deeds and become more compassionate in the process.
Each of us has two ears and one mouth giving us a lesson in the necessary parent ratio of listening to speaking.
To listen to someone is to respect them. What greater honour can we give to our children. Listening is love in action.
Here are some facts about listening:
  1. All communication is received ... but 70-90% of the data is screened out or altered by the receiver. So what you say is NOT necessarily what the listener gets.
  2. Listening is incorrectly perceived as not very powerful by most people.
  3. Rates of speaking to listening: We listen at 1,000 to 1,200 words a minute. We speak at around 300 words a minute. Thus, our minds wander.
  4. We have a strong cultural tendency to tune out.
Listening is a learned active engagement that is a key factor in successful parenting. We can all become better listeners to improve our relationships.
"Something I wish I could teach parents is to listen to kids rather than ignore or say 'That's nice.' Instead, listen, really listen, to what children have to say." - Holly, age 12
"Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you." - Robert Fulghum


"Any man can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad."
Learning is the joy of children and the privilege of parents. If we are wise, we will allow our children to teach us how to enjoy the moment, laugh and listen. When we mix this with love, we begin to learn the joys of being a successful parent.
The stage of life during which we learn at the fastest rate is the first ten years.

How to Make Good Things Happen

Your mind interprets everything you think as a positive thought. So if you think, 'I don't want to be poor,' your unconscious mind focuses on the "poor" and, because it doesn't do negatives, the thought becomes 'I want to be poor.' Being poor then becomes the goal in your unconscious mind. That's why stating goals in the positive is so important. In this instance, instead of thinking 'I don't want to be poor,' you'd think "I want to be wealthy."

Always focus on what you want, not what you don't want. The unconscious mind cannot process negatives. If I ask you "Don't think of a Pink Elephant" you will think of a pink elephant. Always give direction for what you want your children to think and do. The common example of saying to children "stop fighting" should reflect a desired positive outcome. "I want the two of you to happily play soccer in the backyard together".

When people expect good things to happen and believe good things will happen, they find that good things happen! Focus on what you want. Stay focused on the positive desired results. Imagine every minute detail of how those positive results will look, feel, hear, taste, smell, as if you have already achieved the positive results. Vividly imagine yourself happy and successful. You are then on your way to achieving the success you deserve and desire!

Your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined.

Your beliefs are fuelled by your faith in yourself, and by what you tell yourself through: thoughts, images, and feelings. You can enhance and fine tune these beliefs by listening, learning and practicing 'what you think' about and keeping what you find works best for you.

Give positive directions to your children. Clearly tell them what you want them to do, not what you don't want them to do.

Don't say "don't", say "Do this...(redirecting them to an appropriate positive activity)."

How we learn and remember

  • The human brain thinks in pictures.
  • The human brain learns - and remembers - new information by associating it to something it already knows.
  • The human brain remembers wild and outrageous things easier than the mundane.
  • The brain needs a trigger. Something needs to initiate the recall.

Making our Brain Learn Better

The brain centres involved in emotions are directly connected to the learning system. When they are activated, they automatically start the teaching circuits (chains of nerve cells). This is why emotional events—our first day of school, the birth of child, a parent's death—become so engraved in our memories.
We can take advantage of this natural learning booster by believing something is important. If we try to learn without feeling interested, very little of that information will be saved in our memories. But if we force ourselves to treat what we're learning as if it were vitally important, our brains will join in, and will trigger our learning circuits.
The difference is astounding. When they are not interested, people learn 10 percent or less of what they're taught. But when we are interested, we remember more than 90 percent!
The secret of a great memory is ‘original awareness’. When people say they forgot something, they usually mean they never remembered it in the first place. Awareness means paying attention and exploring different aspects of the subject matter.
Memory works by association. In order for you to remember any new thing, it must be associated with something you already know or remember. As you learn and remember more, you give your memory more "hooks" to add further associations. By doing this, you will rapidly become a genius!
Ensure you are clear, confident and prepared to be very straightforward with people and communicate what you truly want.
In general people in a learning situation retain:
  • 10% of what they read
  • 20% of what they hear
  • 30% of what they see
  • 50% of what they see and hear
  • 70% of what they talk over with others
  • 80% of what they use and do in real life
  • 95% of what they teach someone else
Teach your children well and you will learn and remember a great deal.

Walt Disney

During the last days of Walt Disney's life, right before he died, a man came in to see him. The man said, "Ok Walt, it's so terrible, you're not going to get to see Epcot and Disney World."
Walt looked at him and said, "Are you kidding me? If I didn't see it in my mind, you'll never see it in your experience."
"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow."- Albert Einstein
"Sometimes the poorest man leaves his children the richest inheritance." - Ruth E. Renkel

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Mother gets apology for removal of children!!

This is disgusting. The Family Court must be destroyed!

<<” In one case, he revealed he had a sexual relationship with the lawyer who was acting for the wife, and then refused to disqualify himself from the hearing”>>.
<< “The magistrate in the case, Joseph Harman, told the woman he believed she was doing irreparable psychological harm to the children by not encouraging them to see their father”>>
Commentary below from Ash Pattil of F4E (Australia)
“The below article is about a disgraceful act by Australia’s Family Law Courts, to completely destroy any shred of child protection provisions left in Australia’s Family Law act, by making an unprecedented apology to a malicious mother who has alienation her children against their father.
This is the Court, at its highest levels, over-turning a sitting Magistrates decision and rewarding a Mother who has engaged in Parental Alienation to an extreme degree, for no apparent legally justified reason.
You have to seriously ask why the Family Law act was amended by the Gillard Labor government recently when the Judiciary has already interpreted out any provisions designed to promote a child’s meaningful relationship with both parents.
Chief Federal Magistrate John H. Pascoe is a fool and an unfit custodian of a child’s best interests for sinking so low as to apologise to such a malicious woman, all in the name of appeasing women’s groups. This is the kind of precedent that will encourage Parental Alienation as the standard tactic for getting sole custody of your children, especially if you are an unfit parent.
To all separating Australian Mothers, message from the Court: ‘We encourage you to involve your children in divorce proceedings, to their detriment, and to alienate them against their father. If you do so, we guarantee that you will get sole custody, even if we have to sack a sitting Judicial Officer for acting in the best interests of your children.’
Just keep one point in mind here..the federal Magistrates Court has tried to sack a Magistrate who did nothing worse than act according to the law, and in the best interests of the children. If this is not an indication that the institutions of the Family Law Courts are infected by an ideology rather then dispensing the law as intended in the Act, then God knows what is”. (F4E Link )
Mother gets apology from court for removal of children
Carolyn Overington
Nov 29th 2011
A SYDNEY mother has received a written apology from the chief of the Federal Magistrates Court after her three children were removed from her care for refusing to visit their father.
In a letter of a type rarely seen in Australia, Chief Federal Magistrate John H. Pascoe said he was “very deeply concerned” at the distress the mother suffered after her children were taken from her.
He said the treatment the mother received in court was “quite inconsistent with the aims of the court in dealing with family matters” and added: “I have a great deal of sympathy for you.”
The woman, who cannot be named, was accused in court of “poisoning” the children against their father by involving them in the custody dispute. The children were twin boys aged 14 and their 12-year-old sister.
The magistrate in the case, Joseph Harman, told the woman he believed she was doing irreparable psychological harm to the children by not encouraging them to see their father.
In a hearing at the Parramatta branch of the Federal Magistrates Court, Mr Harman said the children would have no relationship with their father if they were allowed to stay with their mother. He based his ruling on the findings of a court psychologist.
Under the laws on shared parenting brought in by the Howard government in 2006, couples were encouraged to “co-parent” their children after divorce.
The Senate passed amendments to those laws last week. Men’s rights groups have complained the Labor government is winding back shared care, but women’s groups say the amendments are necessary to protect children from harm.
When Mr Harman told the Sydney mother he had decided to send the children to live full-time with their father, her lawyer immediately objected, saying the “extraordinary” move “would remove the children from the mother, instantly, with no communication whatsoever”.
Mr Harman replied: “That’s a bit like what happened in June-July last year, when the children were removed from any time with their father, and haven’t communicated with him since.”
Counsel for the mother told the court the children had become hysterical when told of the order, and were refusing to leave the court with their father.
The magistrate said this was typical of children who had been taught to fear their father.
The mother left the court “distressed and about to vomit” and an ambulance was called. Two NSW police officers attended the court after the children began damaging court property in the foyer.
The mother’s lawyer then told the court that if the children were forced to go with their father they would run away.
“That’s why I’ve invited the Department (of Community Services) to intervene,” Mr Harman said. “If they don’t comply, they will be in a refuge. They won’t be going home with mum.”
Two senior child welfare officers from the NSW Department of Community Services were called to the court. Mr Harman told them: “We have two children, sorry, three children, two of whom are twin boys who have just turned 14, so young, strong and full of testosterone, and a 12-year-old girl.
“They are now expressing very strong entrenched views that they are not going anywhere with their father. I have just made an order that they are to go home with him.
“I have also made an order, subject to the power of arrest if anyone breaches it, that neither mum nor any member of her family are to go and talk to them.
“If these children refuse to go anywhere with their father, I would like you to exercise your emergency powers and take them into care.
“Those are the three options: they go home with dad or they go home with the director. They are not leaving this building with mum.”
He added: “If you need the assistance of police or security, downstairs will help with that.”
However, neither police nor the social workers were willing to physically force the children, who were described as “verging on hysterical”, into a refuge or into their father’s care.
One of the police officers told Mr Harman the children were in “a highly aggressive, agitated and hysterical state” and one social worker tried to explain it would be impossible to force the children to go with the father, since it may “see them break away, or run away, and be vulnerable on the streets”.
Mr Harman conceded defeat, saying: “These children have now been present in this court since 11.30am, and accordingly have been here for the best part of eight hours and have maintained a steadfast refusal to leave (the court) with the father.”
He said the children’s mother had helped whip “them into a frenzy” about being sent to a refuge, and so he agreed to let the children leave with a maternal aunt. Their mother was banned from any contact with them for a month, including by mobile telephone and email. She was also banned from going within 500m of their school.
The mother has told The Australian the order removing the children was overturned after a month, with no explanation.
“They came back to me, and they are still with me, and I never heard another word from the court until I suddenly got that apology (on November 9),” the mother said. “He did so much damage to my children, I believe he should be sacked.”
Mr Harman was asked to stand down from the court last month while he received counselling for a series of judgments that had to be overturned on appeal.
In one case, he revealed he had a sexual relationship with the lawyer who was acting for the wife, and then refused to disqualify himself from the hearing.
Mr Pascoe said he had been made aware of “some complaints” against Mr Harman, who had “agreed to be restricted to non-sitting duties”.
Mr Harman has since resumed hearing cases at Parramatta “on a limited basis” and is subject to continuing review of his performance.
He did not respond to a request for an interview.
Mr Harman was appointed by federal Attorney-General Robert McClelland in July last year. In a statement, Mr McClelland said he was “aware of concerns raised in relation to Federal Magistrate Harman in the performance of his judicial duties”.
Under the Federal Magistrates Act, magistrates “must not be removed from office, except by the Governor-General, on an address from both Houses of Parliament . . . praying for his or her removal on the grounds of proved misbehaviour or incapacity”.