Talk about family ties getting cut. Then imagine my sever ties scenario . One day a happy role model dad, proud as ,living in a home with happy children. Next day, prison bound , sitting on a concrete floor in a police station, naked and being watched by a couple of note taking forensic females, who thought it was funny .
I can prove that a vengeful and vindictive family stole my children and poisoned their vulnerable minds. These irrational adults enjoyed the brainwashing, as they bombarded me with false allegations of sexual child abuse and domestic violence . It is a sad indictment that they are still rewarded for all the lies, for example , ACC lump sum payments and court protected. Not to forget that they are allowed to commit perjury at will , just ring the Ashburton Police girls !!
16 November 2005. Request by a Family Court Judge for an updated report pursuant to Section 133 Care Of children Act 2004 in this matter on the following grounds ;
“ Mr Burns believes that the children’s reluctance to have contact is because the children have been subjected to parental alienation and to past issues of alleged sexual abuse.”
Dr Michael Davidson had prepared two previous reports ( 2002 & 2004) that were nothing but criminal malicious lies.
In the third consultant clinical psychologist report prepared for the de –family court by Dr John Watson who writes;
“ Assess whether the children may have been subject to parental alienation and whether there are outside factors influencing the children.?
The indications I obtained from the children during the course of my individual assessments of them did not confirm that they have unreasonable negative views and feelings towards their father ……”
Watson is a two faced back stabber who was responsible for causing considerable stress to my family after he rung my upset mother even though I had an assurance from a judge that my mother would be kept out of "all future proceedings." He rung her, despite the court advising him not to have any further contact with her due to her deteriorating health . Mum died four days later after Watson's call! My family are extremely upset with this ratfink , slimeball Watson dirtbag!
Parental alienation and historical child abuse was going on when the slimy underhand Watson was writing his callous lies in 2005! The evidence is the anti –social behaviour from my eldest daughter who was acting out a troublesome attitude that got her in serious hot water with the authorities. She said, “ I was only being naughty to get back at mum who wouldn’t let me see my dad.”
I have complained to both the de family court and psychological board about the criminal negligence and professional malfeasance, however both have fobbed me off, as per usual. What else would I expect where natural justice is just an fleeting idea in the mind of a disturbed and insane prime minister .
PAS is real and a huge problem for many kiwi kids .
Anyway here is a good read from the States.
http://www.nytimes. com/2007/ 09/23/nyregion/ nyregionspecial2 /23Rparenting. html?em&ex=1190692800&en=a228a43930371845&ei=5087%0A
When Ties to a Parent Are Cut by the Other
By MICHAEL WINERIP
THIS is a nice moment in Joe Rabiega’s life. At 31, he has a good job as a research coordinator for the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. He is happily married and feels blessed that his wife of five years, Tiffany, is pregnant with their first child.
His hope is to give that child a happier upbringing than the one he had. Mr. Rabiega’s parents divorced when he was 8, and though they were supposed to share custody, he said, his father, a truck driver with a drinking problem, did everything possible to turn him against his mother and eventually kept him from seeing her.
“He bullied my mother into giving up custody,” Mr. Rabiega said. When he was still allowed to visit his mother, he’d have to stay by the phone to take a call from his father at 4 every afternoon and 8 each evening. He said his father trained him to spy on his mother’s socializing and spending habits.
“His ability to manipulate her was so lopsided, it never got to the point where a court heard it,” he said in a phone interview. “His threats of violence made it clear she’d never get me.”
For several years, he said, until his late teens, he didn’t see his mother and believed everything his father said about her. “He took me to the police station and told them my mother abandoned me, even though it was completely not true,” Mr. Rabiega said. “He had the entire neighborhood convinced that my mother no longer wanted me.
“He had me convinced without him, I had nobody,” Mr. Rabiega said. “When he’d been drinking, he’d get out his gun and threaten to kill himself if I left him.”
It wasn’t until Mr. Rabiega was an adult that he began to see his mother in a different light, he said. “She was a seamstress in a garment factory who didn’t graduate from high school. She was weak, no one to guide her, no money, no education, no resources to fight for me.” At one point, he said, she attempted suicide.
Mr. Rabiega is one of 40 research subjects in a new book by Amy J. L. Baker, about parents who turn a child against the other parent, “Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome.” Dr. Baker, the research director of the Vincent J. Fontana Center for Child Protection at the New York Foundling, does not identify the subjects by their real names, but Mr. Rabiega (called Jonah in the book) agreed to let his name be used for this column. “If this can help people, it’s worth it,” he said. “I really compare what I went through to people who are kidnapped and brainwashed.”
Most people would agree that one parent has the power to turn a child against the other parent; however, classifying the behavior as a mental health syndrome, as Dr. Baker does, has met with considerable criticism in the past. “It’s been a very controversial area,” said Dr. Baker, 48, who lives in Teaneck, N.J., and has a doctorate in psychology from Teachers College at Columbia.
Dr. Baker’s book is written in an academic style and sticks closely to the stories of the 40 adult subjects, ages 19 to 67, who describe being wrongfully manipulated by a parent. It is an attempt to take the sensationalism out of the subject. Accusations of such manipulation have been an issue during high-profile celebrity custody battles, like the ones involving Woody Allen and Mia Farrow and Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger.
There is none of that in Dr. Baker’s book, which includes a seven-page bibliography of scholarly research. Instead, she tells the stories of ordinary people like Mr. Rabiega, struggling into their adult years with the damage they describe from having been manipulated into hating a parent. While most research has focused on children, Dr. Baker looks at these children once they’ve become adults. A key question she set out to answer: Do any of these kids grow up and figure it out? “That I can answer yes,” she said. “I can’t say how prevalent it is, but I have found lots of people.”
Some of what she found undercut earlier research. When therapists first described the behavior in the 1980s, they talked about it as manipulation by mothers to punish fathers. This drew criticism from some women’s groups, who dismissed the syndrome as something concocted by lawyers for abusive fathers trying to improve their custody chances.
Dr. Baker said her research — both for the book and with several hundred subjects over the last five years — indicates a mother or father is equally likely to do the manipulating. It is “truly 50-50,” she said.
Other patterns emerged from her 40 subjects: 75 percent were the products of divorce, and 58 percent were divorced themselves; 70 percent suffered depression; 35 percent developed problems with drugs or alcohol. And perhaps the saddest: Half of the 28 who had children said they were estranged from their own children.
Dr. Baker believes the behavior is prevalent enough to qualify as a syndrome in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the bible of the American Psychiatric Association. While that’s not going to happen soon — the manual won’t be revised again until 2012 — she hopes her research might cause social workers and therapists who investigate custody cases to be more aware. “If you believe it’s possible for a child to be brainwashed by one parent, the job of a custody evaluator is a lot harder,” she said.
The challenges in such cases can be daunting. How do you know if the scorned parent is being unfairly victimized or if that parent is abusive and deserves to be scorned? “It’s a lot of investigating, and there’s no one definitive tool,” Dr. Baker said.
Some of that investigative muscle is missing from her own research. Dr. Baker did not interview parents for their version of events, nor did she cite independent sources like court records that could corroborate the stories. “I did what I could,” she said. “This is just one study. It’s a very new field and there’s little research. The point is to give voice to these people who have not been heard.”
It is also hard to get people to talk publicly about family dysfunction. Mr. Rabiega was willing to speak partly because both his parents are dead.
He said that when he was in his 20s, he again developed a relationship with his mother, but that his father’s “brainwashing” had been so strong, he couldn’t entirely overcome it. “It was hard for me to fully love my mom,” he said. “If she needed me to do something or needed money, I didn’t want to and I’d get angry. My father implanted a disgust and disdain in me for my mother that wouldn’t go away and tainted our relationship.”
Ten years of therapy helped, he said, as did his wife and finding religion. “It helped when I reconnected with my mom, she held nothing against me,” he said. “She reiterated it was my father’s fault, and I had no choice.”
“Unfortunately,” he said, “I realized a lot after my mother died.”